Nowadays, you see more signs that say "free wifi" than "free flowers". I mean, nothing's really free, and I may be a bit old fashioned but when did the romance die? Most of the time on my Facebook feed, Instagram and Twitter, I see happy couples posting about their significant other, and it doesn't disgust me that much. Sure, a part of me is like "no one cares" but I find it kind of sweet when I see stuff like that. It almost makes you want it.
Which is a problem all its own. Most accounts on Facebook and Twitter have pictures that resemble "Relationship Goals", and let's face it, at one point we've all wanted flowers, a giant teddy bear, bras from Victoria's Secret...you know stuff like that. But I personally believe that it puts a mentality into young people's minds about someone who would actually do all of that. I'm not denying the existence of a perfect relationship, or someone giving you all of those things, but it's not something anyone should expect. That's the problem. There are too many high expectations about it. And it sucks, I know. However, the less expectations someone has, the happier they will be. I'm not expecting a guy to drop $100 on me everyday, I'd be lucky if I have a cup of coffee with him! There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting those things. Nothing! But the way it is perceived makes it seem like that's what being in a relationship is all about. The love, the passion, the fun...and even the friendship they have...that's Relationship Goals.
On to the technology aspect. Does it significantly affect relationships? I would personally like to conduct actual research on this, and write about it in a later post, but for now I'm going to share my observations. Cell phones, computers, tablets and all that jazz are simply amazing. The amount of storage we have on these things is incredible. But in recent years, I've walked into restaurants, cafès, general public places, and noticed that most of the tables had one person or more on their phone (or a computer, but if you're doing actual work and you're by yourself okay). Couples don't make eye contact, and soon the intimacy is lost. What is going on? Children, even toddlers, know how to work an iPad better than I do. Parents see their kid is bored, and they give them the phone or tablet, and boom! Kid is playing Candy Crush. Granted, they can absolutely be used for education purposes, but the more they interact with a computer, will they have trouble forming relationships with actual people? It's insane. It's hard to have a conversation with someone if all they do is look at a computer screen the whole time you're with them. Honestly, how do people stay on Facebook, Instagram, etc. for hours? Hours! I get bored after five minutes. Personal opinion. We cannot become robots. Close the computer, and look at your significant other. Look them in the eyes for the first time in a long time. That's what they want, I'm sure. Look up from the phone or tablet, see the world around you. It's quite beautiful.
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